Alias High Boys’ Soccer: 2016 Undefeated League Champions! What’s Next?

Congratulations to the Alisal Boys’ Varsity Soccer Team for winning the 2015-2016 Gabilan League Championship. This is Alisal’s third title in the four-year existence of the re-aligned MBL Gabilan League, arguably the toughest league in the nation, from its inception in 2012. This year’s Gabilan Title marks the sixth championship in eight-years for the Trojans, a span that has seen them win 105 games.
However, as has been the standard for quite a long time at Alisal, the Trojans are reaching for an even more significant title: The California Central Coast Section (CCS) Open Division Championship! For the first time in the history of the CCS, the governing body has created an Open Division for this year’s playoffs, opening the door for a full-on California State Championship that could become a reality as soon as next year. With the San Joaquin Valley and other schools in the more remote parts of California switching their soccer seasons from fall to winter, California is now aligned from San Diego to Northern California, making it a bit easier to organize a legitimate state title.
CCS Background
In years past, the CCS has assigned divisions to each schools. These assigned divisions were based on school populations. For example, Bellarmine Prep, which has a student population of approximately 3600 students (all boys), and Alisal, which has a population of around 2600 students, co-ed, would be categorized as Division I schools. The CCS then turns to the medium sized schools like Archbishop Mitty, Harbor, and St. Frances, for example. These schools have smaller populations than do DI schools. Thus, they are placed in the Division II category. The smaller schools, like Palma, Pacific Grove, Carmel, and Soledad, to name a few, are put into the Division III category. When it’s all said and done, each school competes against schools that, more or less, have similar student populations.
But this year the CCS has decided to make things much more interesting. Now, eight schools, regardless of the size of their student population, can qualify to compete in the newly formed CCS Open Division, the highest division in this part of California. Entry in to the Open Division can be had in two ways: 1. Winning an “A” League championship 2. Having a high number of Power Points (earned by playing and beating A League teams)
As a result of their league championship, Alisal has automatically qualified for this year’s Open Division. The seedings for the Open Division playoffs will be revealed tomorrow. Because they are a high seed, Alisal is sure to host their first round match, which according to, will be against Leigh High School. However, this is only an educated guess at this point, as the CCS will have their official seeding meeting tomorrow afternoon. First round games begin on Saturday, February 27, 2016. Stay tuned for more details.
Go, Trojans.

Alisal vs. Watsonville: Part II

Alisal High School Trojans Senior Night

Salinas, Ca.

10 February 2016

Whether you love the game or not, there is no prerequisite for attending tomorrow’s soccer clash between Watsonville and Alisal. However, it does help if you have penchant for nail-biting excitement and heart-stopping soccer, and tomorrow’s game is sure to provide plenty of both…and then some. Couple all of this with the fact that tomorrow is Senior Night for the Trojans, and, all of a sudden, you’re finding yourself at the center of the hottest event in Salinas since the release of Star Wars.

With a week left in the season, the Trojans and Wildcats are locked in a virtual tie for first place. Alisal, counting Thursday’s contest, has two games left, and Watsonville, because of its bye week, has three games left. With games already played, Alisal is currently in sole possession of first place. A win tomorrow will create even more distance between the Trojans and the rest of the field, putting Alisal in prime position to win their third Gabilan League Championship. It would be the Trojans’ third title in the league’s four-year existence.

The Trojans made life difficult for the Wildcats during their visit to Watsonville. Alisal struck first to take a 1-0 lead, but Watsonville fought back to get the equalizer with twenty-four minutes left in the game. The match ended in a 1-1, draw, but Alisal sent an early message to the ‘Cats that life is a little different when the Trojans play at home.

Since their tie with Watsonville, the Trojans have gone on to win five games in a row, scoring fourteen goals in the process, while conceding only one. Meanwhile, the Wildcats, still reeling a bit after the tie with Alisal, were forced into another 1-1, draw with Alvarez two days later. Since their clash with Trojans, the Wildcats have won three games and tied two, scoring twelve goals and conceding four. The Trojans are peaking at just the right time and only getting stronger, while it seems opponents are pushing the Watsonville to their limit, forcing the ‘Cats to grind it out for points.

Alisal will look to continue their dominance over the ‘Cats. In the last eight-years, Alisal has proven to be the superior team (4-3-2), beating Watsonville four times, including the 2010 CCS DI Championship. Sprinkled in there are three ties and only two losses to the Wildcats. In all honesty, though, nothing of what took place last week or last month or last year has any bearing on tomorrow’s game. Both teams will be on high alert, looking to outwork and outplay each other, eager, too, in taking one step closer to the title.

The J.V. game kicks off at 4:00 p.m., while the varsity match begins at 5:45. If history repeats itself, we should see an large and vociferous Alisal contingency, but an equally robust supporters section for the Wildcats, too. Make sure to get to Kearny Stadium early for the best seats in the house. The Trojans’ snack shack will be in full swing, too. We look forward to seeing you on the pitch. Go, Trojans!

Take it Easy: The Eagles and Dementia

For most of my life, my grandfather Santiago was my best friend. I spent innumerable hours with him, many times one-on-one, traveling together in his old Ford, going long stretches of time without saying a word to each other. We enjoyed each other’s company like this. When we did speak, we spoke in Spanish.

Grandpa spent a significant portion of his life living in Los Angeles, leaving Monterey, Nuevo Leon, Mexico, in his 30’s. He and my grandma and my aunts and uncles transplanted to San Gabriel and then Rosemead. My grandpa did well to land a decent job, one from which he was able to retire, leaving him with ample to time to visit the local swap meets and drink beer with friends in his garage. My grandma was always throwing out the junk he brought home, but my grandpa would just replace it with more junk from subsequent swap meet excursions.

In all this time, my grandfather never made a genuine effort to learn English. My grandma did. I hardly ever spoke to my grandma in Spanish because her English was near flawless. My grandfather, on the other hand, said things like, “ok,” and “yes,” but he never really put a sentence together. Then grandpa got introduced to the Eagles.

I think it was either my cousin Raymond or Ernie that introduced Grandpa to the Eagles’ self-title album Eagles. Keep in mind that he got turned on to it almost twenty-six years after the album’s debut, but all of sudden, my grandfather was speaking English. Well, not really, but he did learn a phrase, one that would he often interject in his good byes to me.

He was pretty proud of his new found language skills. I first heard his new phrase when I visited him in Diamond Bar. He was living with my Aunt Teresa, and I was a student at Cal State Fullerton, about seven-miles away. I used to ride my bike to my aunt’s house just to see my grandpa. It was a win/win for us. He needed help with errands and car repairs and whatever, and I was usually hungry. He’d buy me lunch or we would make a lunch together in the house. Most of the time, however, we just sat and talked. We talked about baseball, about school, about our dreams (we shared a similar dream—one that no other person I know has had), and about our family.

On this particular day, as I was about to roll down the driveway and head back to Fullerton, my grandfather stood in from of the house and said “Ok, mijo. Take ed eezy.” It was funny to hear because he sounded like Tony Montana from Scarface, but I understood clearly what he was saying. He was saying, “Take it easy,” and he was mimicking the lyrics from the Eagles’ song of the same name. It helped explain why he would always ask me to play that song for him, and when Glen Frey sang, “Take it easy,” my grandpa sang with him. It was pretty cool. From that point on, whenever we said our goodbyes, we included “Take it easy,” and we laughed every time we said it. I don’t know why we laughed, but we did. As was always the case, after visits with my grandfather, I was giddy and smiling all the way home. I must’ve looked like a maniac on a bike, but I loved my grandpa and he always put me in a good mood.

A few years later, my grandpa was hit hard with Alzheimer’s and Dementia. I knew nothing of either. Circumstances brought my grandfather to live with my mom and my siblings and me, before the severity of symptoms came were apparent. He was my dad’s dad, but we were more than happy to have my grandpa live with us. I was especially happy about it. After all, he was my best friend.

The onset of full-blown of dementia and Alzheimer’s was gradual in my grandpa, and as it was, we failed to recognize signs that anything was amiss with him. I guess whenever something seemed odd, we just thought it was Grandpa being Grandpa.

One day, though, I arrived at home and found my mom crying in the garage. She was distraught, and I was scared that something tragic had taken place. I didn’t want to hear any bad news, but my mom’s face was telling, and so I knew something had gone wrong. It turns out, my grandfather had made an inappropriate pass at my mother. My mom took was taken aback by it.

The fallout was harsh. The worst part of the entire episode, besides my grandfather later losing his mind, was the fact that we knew absolutely nothing about dementia or Alzheimer’s disease. We had no experience with it, and we didn’t know anyone that suffered from either disease. With this being the case, my brother and I reacted, and we reacted with anger and resentment. I, for my part, felt betrayed by my grandfather. I couldn’t grasp what had happened, and any attempt to understand it just brought on more confusion and anger. Even my dad was angry.

It wasn’t until later, until it was too late, that we learned from doctors that sufferers of dementia are affected by unpredictable sexual feelings, depending on what part of the brain is effected. At the time, we failed to realize that my grandfather’s symptoms had reached a clinical level, but we couldn’t tell, for had we known, our collective reaction would have been more understanding. I wish I could go back to those days with the understanding I have now. Out of my own ignorance, I lost my best friend. In the end, my grandpa did not recognize me anymore. In the months and years since the episode at my mom’s house, I rarely saw my grandpa. By the time that love and forgiveness won out, it was too late. He didn’t know who I was. And so our ties were severed in the most unfortunate way. Being ignorant and failing to understand what was going on is a regret I still carry with me today.

Glen Frey died today, Monday, January 18, 2016. . Every time I hear “Take it Easy,” I always think of my grandfather, and when I do, the image always includes my grandfather laughing aloud with his head thrown back, just before he says to me, “Ok, mijo. Take ed eezy!”



29 September 2015

“To die, to sleep –
To sleep, perchance to dream – ay, there’s the rub,
For in this sleep of death what dreams may come…”                                                                 -Shakespeare

Bryan was one of my favorite students. He was a sophomore when we met, and like me, he was new to the Opportunity Program, a program designed to serve and meet the needs of “at risk” youth, a term which, for all intents and purposes, can be applied to every single elementary, middle, and high school kid in East Salinas, because to be a kid in East Salinas means to be at risk: at risk of being shot and killed.

Bryan was shot and killed yesterday in front of his mom’s house. He was seventeen.

I know this hurts his mom. I had spoken with her on several occasions concerning Bryan’s academic standing. I had spoken with his step-dad, too. Bryan’s mom cared a great deal for her son, but Bryan, when I first met him, was infected with all the rebelliousness that comes with being a teenager.

Because of the design of the Opportunity Program, I spent a significant amount of time with Bryan. He enjoyed coming to class, where, along with my other ten or eleven or twelve kids, depending on how many students decided to show, we’d spend more than four-hours a day together, in one room. 

I often had long talks with Bryan. He was mature for his age, and he had been in regular school before coming to the program, something that could not be said about my other students. Bryan had gotten a taste of real high school life. My other students had not, and because they hadn’t, they were mostly lost causes, as far as school was concerned. Not Bryan, though. He had a future of some kind. I could tell.

In class or during the time we spent walking around the stadium’s track, Bryan and I talked about his schooling, his family, his drug and alcohol use, his sex life, and his political views. Yes, we spoke politics. He was especially interested in immigration policy. I knew more about what was going on in Bryan’s life than did his parents, something that is true with a lot of students and their teachers. Sometimes a teacher is the only adult a kid feels comfortable opening up to. 

At one point during our school year, a man wielding a pair of gardening scissors in public was shot and killed by Salinas Police outside of a market on a busy street. Bryan, moved by what he perceived as police injustice, grabbed a bullhorn and led a march and rally at the corner of where the man had been killed. Bryan believed in what he was doing. He felt a connection to the dead man; he saw the wrongness in his death, and he wanted to spark change. I didn’t know that Bryan had done this until a picture of him holding a bullhorn and thrusting an angry fist in the air ran in the local Salinas newspaper. I was moved when I saw the picture, and I told him how proud I was that he had gotten involved with something about which he had felt strongly.

Bryan was shot multiple times, his bloody body lay motionless on the apartment complex’s driveway, a few feet from the apartment he shared with his mom. He was pronounced dead at the hospital.

Bryan had once again made headlines in the same newspaper. I heard of the news this morning. Naturally, I found it hard to believe. I was told during class, and I wanted to cry, but all my current Opportunity Program students were watching me, and so I felt the need to hideaway my emotions. I don’t know why I didn’t cry in front of them. I could have, easily. 

Unfortunately, Bryan is not the first of my students to be shot and killed. There have been many others, more than I can count, and they were all at risk, simply because they lived in Salinas.

Bryan’s death hurts, though. I saw him evolve and transform into a young man with direction, no matter how directionless his direction may have seemed. He had transitioned back into regular school from my program, but ultimately ended up at another alternative education program in Salinas, from what I heard. It had been about six months since I last saw him. I wish he would’ve visited more often, just like he used to. 

Now that he’s dead, the only thing I can think of are all the laughs we shared. I can still hear his snickering and his wild howls and his simultaneous laugh and handclap combo. We capped on each other in Spanish and English and we talked about our favorite Mexican foods and cars and girls. We shared many lunches together, and we barbecued as a class. I trusted him with errands, and he never let me down.

I’m sure there was a lot I didn’t know about Bryan. There’s a lot I don’t know about a lot of people. The media will call his murder “gang related,” but Bryan wasn’t a gang banger. He was smarter than to allow himself to be used by a gang. Bryan was a regular kid trying to navigate his life to get himself to a nicer place. 

You know, though, enough is enough. This depraved behavior has to come to an end. In the name of simple sanity, the murdering has to stop. People of all ages and from all walks of life are dying violently and senselessly in Salinas. One would imagine that the good people of any city under a siege of violence, as Salinas is and has been, would band together to rid their city of the murderous and violent element(s), but this doesn’t happen in Salinas. It’s citizens are scared–simply put. Salinas’ citizens can reclaim their city. It can be done, but it takes courage. Bryan had courage—a lot of it—but Salinas will no longer get a chance to see it. 

Rest in Peace, Bryan.

Your friend,

Mr. C.

My 9/11

I let the phone to go voice mail five times before picking up.  It was Jennifer, but it was also 5:50 a.m. I may have thought it was her after the second call, but it was early and I was sleeping and everything about the phone and the ringing was rude. I stared at the ceiling one last time before answering.

Before Guen was Guen, before she changed her name, she was Jennifer, and so on this morning, Jennifer said, “The World Trade Center is burning. It’s on the news.” I didn’t understand at the time why this was worthy of multiple phone calls, but there was a loving pitch in her tone, and so it spurred me to get my ass out of bed.  

I waded into the living room and grabbed the remote control. I was in my underwear. It was cold. I turned on the T.V. and took a seat at the edge of the couch, one foot pointed in the direction of the bathroom and the other at the T.V. I wasn’t yet convinced that this was worth holding my piss. I crossed my arms to keep warm, but the tiled floor was relentless.

As Jennifer had said, one of the Towers was indeed burning. I was distantly interested. I had been in Battery Park just a few months earlier. The Twin Towers are a presence, for sure, and it would seem unreasonable to believe they could be harmed. But now there was smoke and fire and a newswoman’s chatter. Her squawk was incessant, crackling with opinion and speculation.  She was talking over the images, and as I sat and listened and watched, I noticed, from the live footage, a plane flying behind the buildings. The footage was live! I thought to myself, “Wait a minute. I just saw a plane fly by behind that building, and I didn’t see it fly out. What’s up with that?” And as my brain organized these thoughts, the newswoman said in a hurried voice, “Can we rewind the footage or can we get a different angle? I thought I saw plane fly behind the building and didn’t see it come out on the other side.” The camera’s angle changed.  “Oh. My. God!” she said. Her male counterpart said the same. I said, “Oh, fuck!”

My reaction to the whole thing was altered. There was now an emotional change. There was confusion, too. I don’t remember showering or dressing or getting in my car. However, I do remember stopping at the corner of Garo and Stimson, and Howard Stern saying, “Oh my God! The whole World Trade Center just imploded and went down. It’s gone.”

At Norwalk High School that morning, our principal sent an early morning email to all staff members. “Dear Teachers, please do not turn on your televisions. Please do not play the radio or show the news.” I was already angry, and this email nudged me towards a dangerous emotional line. I had the T.V. turned on when my second period, eleventh grade English class walked in. We perched ourselves on our desks and watched for the full period, in disbelief. We watched all day. Not one of us could have realized, in those moments, the level of change our world was to experience.

And just like that, the Twin Towers were severed from New York’s skyline, an unwanted alteration to an iconically American skyline. What little innocence America had left was also gone. America, as I knew it, had died.

Of course, it turned into a 360 degree issue, with almost every finger pointed in the direction of the Middle East. Others were pointing their fingers at our American government. It was shameful, of course.

Regardless of the controversy surrounding the tragedy, back home, approximately thirty of my ex-students have since deployed to Iraq and Afghanistan to fight the “evil-doers.”

One of my boys, an ex-Alisal Soccer player, told me a story about when his father picked him up from the San Jose Airport. He had arrived home from Afghanistan. Chucho said he was walking through the terminal with his father, his U.S. Marines backpack slung over his shoulders. He heard a familiar sound, a sound soldiers of war know. It was a landing plane, but he heard it as an “incoming.” His dad watched in surprise as his son hit the floor in haste, in the middle of the airport terminal, surrounded by a mass of people, as he yelled “Incoming! Down!” 

Chucho’s dad looked down at him and said, “Que estas haciendo?” After an embarrassing pause, Chucho picked himself up, He adjusted his backpack, and walked out of the terminal with his dad. 

After serving four-years in the Marines, Chucho enlisted for another four. He will fight this war for the rest of his life. He was ten when the planes hit. I was thirty-one. 

Thank you, Chucho. 

To Hell and Back: A Colonoscopy Story

My visit to Dr. Hell was prompted by blood in my stool. I was thirty-five. According to the American Cancer Society, most people should begin screening for colon and rectal cancer and polyps at age fifty. I told my wife about my slightly bloody stool, and she suggested I see a doctor about it. I didn’t want to see a doctor, but I like living, so it was an easy decision.

I asked around to see if anyone was familiar with gastroenterologists in the Monterey area, and most people agreed that if you wanted your asshole thoroughly inspected, Dr. Hell was your man. Apparently, he’s peered into some of the most importsnt anuses in Monterey County. I paid Dr, He’ll a visit in his Monterey office. With a name like Hell, I expected someone, well, more hellish, but he was anything but. Dr. Hell was clean cut, profession, l and genuinely congenial, his qualities putting me at ease for this particular adult, rite of passage.

I told him I had seen blood in my stool. I usually take a quick peek at my deuces to make sure the plumbing is sound. He was ready to start the check-up. He asked me to drop my pants. I did. He asked me to turn around and kneel over the inspecting table. I did. With my shorts and underwear dropped to my ankles, my hands crumpling the paper laid out on the table, Dr. Hell proceeded to inspect my ass. It took him only a few moments to inspect. “It looks like you have some small, external hemorrhoids, but it’s worth getting a closer look,” he said. By the time I was done buttoning my shorts, Dr. Hell was already scheduling my colonoscopy. Because there’s a significant amount of prep time involved in a colonoscopy, we chose Monday as a good day to have the procedure.

Along with instructions for my prep time, Dr. Hell handed me two small, plastic bottles, about the size of hotel shampoo, and told me to drink one on Sunday morning and the other on the morning of the procedure. I was also ordered not ingest any food beginning on Sunday morning and until after the procedure. I ate like a pig on Saturday, knowing that I was going to go without food for over twenty-four hours. I have a pretty high threshold for pain, but not for hunger.

On Sunday morning, I drank the first of the two bottles of gut salvage saline formulation. These are fancy medical terms for laxatives that induce major shits and Hershey squirts. Sunday was not a normal day. I was confined to our tiny apartment for the entire day because I going to the toilet every ten-minutes. The shits just kept coming and the pain was gut wrenching, pun intended. My asshole was chafed, too, and it got to the point where I could no longer wipe because of the burn. Instead, by Sunday afternoon, I had to resort to patting my anus with a sizeable wad of Charmin because wiping was out of the question. My mind looked ahead to the other bottle I was to drink the next morning, and I began to think that maybe Dr. Hell was actually the devil. There was no way that another bottle was going to clean me out any more than I was already. My nighttime toilet sittings produced nothing but air, like dry heaves, as I was completely hollow. Nevertheless, I did what the doctor ordered, and on Monday morning, I reluctantly downed the other bottle of saline formula.

Guen drove to Dr. Hell’s office. It was a must. I would be under anesthesia for the procedure, and there are other powerful drugs involved, so I wouldn’t be in any shape to drive when it was done. I have to admit that I was a little nervous. This was the first major, medical procedure I’ve ever had, and didn’t know what to expect. Luckily, Dr. Hell’s entire staff was superb in helping to calm my nerves. A female nurse was my first contact. It was her job to make sure I was properly set for the procedure, which meant being dressed in a gown and having the IV’s placed into my left arm—there were three—and to make sure I was aware of what was to take place. I asked her if there was any pain involved, and she said, “No, not really. It’s pretty standard. Most people don’t remember a thing because of the drugs.” I said, “Oh, not me. I’ll be awake. It takes a lot to knock me out.” “Oh, ok. We’ll see,” she said.

I was looking up at the ceiling and lights, taking in the ringing phones and busy voices, as they rolled me into the spacious room where the procedure was going to happen. The nurse parked me right under a massive set of floodlights, another then a small team of nurses took over. They plugged the drug lines into the IV’s and engaged me in small talk. My nerves were as calm as they would get, which is to say I was still feeling a bit anxious.

A few minutes later, Dr. Hell threw open the double doors, walked into the room like a king, and said, “How we doing, Mark? Did the drugs kick in yet?” It was a pretty impressive entrance, one I’ve often tried at home with my family, but it never impresses anyone. “To be honest with you, doc,” I said. “I’m still pretty awake. I don’t feel sleepy or anything.” I really didn’t feel the effect of the meds. I wasn’t joking when I said it takes a lot to knock me out. “Well, give him some more drugs then!” he said as he turned and walked out. “I’ll be back in a few minutes, Mark.” “Ok, doc,” I said.

“Ok,” the nurse said, “we’re going to give you more drugs, Mark.” I said, “Ok,” and this is the last thing I remember.

At one point during the procedure, I awoke. I was on my left side. I opened my eyes, and hanging directly in front of me was 60” plasma, flat screen television, all in HD. There was a live image of a camera probing a fleshy cavern, and immediately my mind began to make sense of it. “Is that the inside of my ass? Oh, shit!” I whispered to myself as I once again fell into a deep sleep.

The next thing I remember is that I’m in the corner of the nurses’ station sucking on a straw plugged into a kid’s juice cup. I felt eighty-years-old, sitting there sort of helpless, unsure as to where I was and what I was doing there. One of the nurses noticed that I was awake, and she asked if I was ok. I told her I was ok. A few minutes later, Dr. Hell came up to me to ask the same. “He said, “Well, Mark. You’re ass looks great. You have some small hemorrhoids but nothing major. All systems are go, and you are all clear. I won’t see you again until you’re fifty.” “That’s good news, doc,” I said. Thank you for everything. I appreciate it.”

You know that happy feeling you get when you get a check-up and the doctor tells you everything’s ok? Well, I was happy like that. And I can tell people that I’ve been to Hell and back.

Alisal High School: 2015 Baccalaureate Speech

Alisal High School Baccalaureate Speech                                                                                       26 May 2015

As you know, God did not make us all the same. Some people are short, some people are tall, some are quick, and others slow, some are smart and so on. God also did not put us in the same situations, under the same circumstances. Some people are poor, others rich. Some people sleep on sidewalks, while others sleep on beds. Some people have enough to eat; others don’t. Now, these things may seem obvious to you. After all, we come across these images every day. But what may not be obvious to you is this: God made us all the same in one aspect. God has given everybody, including each of you in this church, the opportunity to make the most of our situations and our circumstances, and if you look closely and without judgement, you will see this all around you. In fact, many of you, by being here right now, are in the midst of making the most out of your own situations. You’ve earned the right to be here. Others in this room may be only just realizing their potential, and some of you might be a little lost, but whatever the case may be, you have a major challenge ahead of you,  and it will continue to be your biggest challenge as you blaze through life. Your challenge is to find success by making the most out of your situations and circumstances!

Your parents are living proof of this model of success! You know where your parents have come from; you know what they’ve gone through and home much they’ve suffered. And now their sons and daughters are about to graduate from high school! This accomplishment, to your parents, is one example of their success, and so I congratulate all your parents! Felicidades a todos los padres! As for me, I don’t need anyone to tell me that I’m successful. I know I am, and I will continue to be the only person to whom I have to prove this. Only we, ourselves, can be the judges of our success, because only we know if we have truly done our best to be successful.

I remember going to the market with my mom when I was a kid, and I remember my mom paying for our groceries with the colored food stamps we received from the government. I will never forget this. I also remember, at the age of seven, dragging home a metal trashcan filled with tortillas that our neighbor left behind when he moved. He was a tortillero, and the packets were leftovers. It was exciting to find those tortillas because I knew my mom would be happy, and she was. But even at seven-years-old, I had an idea that my life could be better. I intended to make the most of my circumstances. And now I find myself here with you, in this church, speaking to Alisal High School’s newest graduates, and I wouldn’t’ want to be anywhere else right now. To me, this is success. I don’t care if it isn’t to anyone else.

Now, if what I say about success is true, then the opposite must be true, too, and it is this: you will not find success if you do not make the most of your situations. In my ten years at Alisal, I’ve seen many students squander what they have. Many of these students were born in the United States, they speak English, they can get jobs, and they don’t have to worry about being separated from their families. In short, they possess the very things that many other students at Alisal wish they had. And yet these students with these great opportunities waste them. They don’t graduate or they get horrible grades and they don’t care for learning. And then I see Jaime and Maria and Martha, hard working students, and I know that they would die to have what these kids are wasting away. Sometimes life isn’t fair, though. So do yourselves a favor and go out and find your personal success by making the most of what you have been given. In doing so, you will suffer a great deal, as your parents have, and you will make many mistakes, as your parents have. There is no doubt about it. But you must make mistakes, many mistakes, and you must suffer, sometimes immensely, because only then will you be able to enjoy the fruit and beautiful memories that your suffering will produce for you. Congratulations, Class of 2015, and thank you for this honor. I love you, guys! Be safe! Go, Trojans!

A Decade at Alisal High School

On May 29, 2015, I will have completed my tenth-year as a teacher at Alisal High School, and I have to say that it’s been a fruitful time, a decade filled with unparalleled opportunity, growth, and comedy. Throughout my ongoing, seventeen-year teaching career, I’ve taught at a handful of high schools and colleges in the Los Angeles area, but I found my niche at Alisal High School, and it’s at Alisal where I have realized the greatest and most significant accomplishments of my teaching career.

I was hired as an eleventh grade English teacher at Alisal in 2004, and I remained an English teacher for the following eight-years. Then in 2013-2014, my teaching assignment changed, and I made the switch from the English Department to the Opportunity Program, an educational program specifically designed for at-risk students at Alisal High School. It was a voluntary move, a decision I do not regret, and one which has re-introduced my career to new levels of growth, experience, and humor.

Teaching at Alisal has made me a stronger and wiser person, and I owe this combination of growth to the nearly 2000 students of whom I’ve had the pleasure of teaching, or not teaching, depending on who you ask. I still remain in contact with many former students. Social media has kept us connected, but I also come across many ex-students at the movie theaters, farmers’ markets, restaurants, parks, and soccer fields throughout Monterey County, and it’s always a pleasure to see how much they’ve grown and transformed. Some of them are now married with children, barreling head-on through life, experiencing the wisdom and pain of adulthood. I can’t help but laugh when I see that they are now part of the very life cycle that they rebelled against when they were students, and that many, now, have become exact replicas of their parents, something they swore would never happen.

Alisal High School has also helped me forge an everlasting relationship with East Salinas, the “Mexican” side of the larger city of Salinas. It’s a tarnished part of town, off and on one of the most violent cities in the United States, per capita. Nevertheless, the town’s collective spirit is strong. Coming from Los Angeles, a city of 18 million people, to a small agricultural town of 150,000 people, took some getting used to, but I knew I had to acquaint myself with the city and its people if I was to have any hopes of being successful as a teacher at Alisal High.  I did, and my efforts have helped me achieve good things.

Those familiar with East Salinas know that it prides itself on its rough exterior and gritty work ethic. It could be an intimidating place on the surface, but those with patience and discernment, those who dare to look past the city’s deceptive shell, will find that the lifelong residents of East Salinas stand firmly behind their tiny corner of the world, and that these residents are brimming with the same love and kindness and understanding found in any other corner of the world. The people of East Salinas are a mostly open group, too, willing to share their stories and their origins, something they do so with intense passion. This openness made life easy for an outsider like me, because all that was necessary of me was to listen. Ultimately, listening to my students’ stories, listening to the many stories and voices of everyone I came in contact with, listening intently and inwardly, without judgement, has been one my most powerful teaching skills. The art of listening has proven more valuable to me than any teacher’s manual or college course could ever be.

The other tool in my teaching arsenal is something a little easier to come by: the art of smiling. In East Salinas, a smile and handshake can take you a long way. It’s a magical combination, but there is no magic to it. It is part of the simple formula for success—listening and smiling—but a lot of people are afraid to smile, afraid of what they don’t understand, and many, it turns out, don’t understand East Salinas. They’re intimidated by the stories they’ve heard and what the media portrays. They don’t take the time to experience the city for themselves. Many find it difficult to look past East Salinas’ exterior, and so the city remains shrouded in an unwarranted, unideal reputation, and these reputations, as we know, are difficult to shake.

You’re Gonna Die

The F Word

My daughter was five-years-old when she first used the F Word. It wasn’t uttered through annoyance or frustration.  She used it without any knowledge of its place in our language. It was right before bedtime, after I had closed the Laura Ingalls Wilder book we were reading. We both enjoyed our nightly reading, and the Wilder book was her first introduction to the “chapter book.” She took to it well, embracing the longer, more detailed story line. With the book resting on my stomach and our eyes gazing up at the ceiling, she was bombarding me with a mouthful of curious inquiries, all pertaining to life on the prairie.  The Wilders had bears with which to contend,Indians to feed, land to till, bread to bake, and wood to split. This was not the life my daughter knew, so she was childishly fascinated by the prairie life.

After answering most of her questions, I went to rest the book on her dresser, the inherited one by the door. I then turned to her bedside and leaned in for my kiss. “Good night, Momma. I love you.” She responded with, “I love you, too, Daddy,” her voice sleepy with cuteness. “Thank you. Good night,” I said. I made for the door and reached for the light switch, grinning wildly from the overwhelming buzz that stirs in me whenever she tell me she loves me. I flicked the light to off and began to walk out. Suddenly, her voice brought me quickly back. “Daddy!” I halted at the door, my hand on the light switch as I was about to turn it back on. Into a darkened room I said, “Yes, Momma?” And out of the darkness, her five-year-old voice asked me, “Is ‘fucking baby’ a character in the book?”

I was a statue at the room’s threshold.  “Wait!” “Did she just say the F Word?” “Did I hear correctly?”  At this point, the hamster in my head is on fire, racing madly, trying to make sense of what I just heard, at the same time entirely doubting that what I heard was correct. “She couldn’t have said the F Word?” Nah, she didn’t say that?” “Did she?” I have to respond. She’s waiting.

I had no choice but to ask her to repeat herself. “I’m sorry, Momma. What was that?” “Is ‘fucking baby’ a character in the book?” she said. I cringed because I realize I just made my daughter say the F Word one more time, but still I’m not entirely sure she said it. Believing that I’m losing my mind, I ask her to say it again. “I’m sorry, Momma. What did you say?” The bathroom light in the hallway was providing a little light so that I could scarcely see her on the bed. She sat up a little, resting on her elbows, and she answered me once more. “Is ‘fucking baby’ a character in the book?” Again, I feel a pain inside as I almost double over.

It’s odd hearing a kindergartner swear, especially when she uses the F Word. My daughter just uttered it…not once, not twice, but three times! “No, Momma,” I say calmly. “It’s not a character in the book, and we don’t use that word, ok?” “Ok,” she says. “Good night.”

This pathetic response is all I could muster. I didn’t bother to ask her where she had heard the word.  I didn’t even take a moment to explain to her its misuse and wrongness.  I was scared. Experience failed me, and I left it at that. I said good night and headed for the living room where my wife was watching Dateline.

I’m anxious, but I have to control myself a little because I have to tell my wife. I closed the hallway door behind me and stood behind the recliner. She was to my right, lying on the couch. I’m standing. “I think Xaria just used the F Word.” It was ridiculous of me to say “I think” because after hearing her say it three times, there was no doubt.

My wife’s upper torso exploded into a massive sit-up that would’ve made Bruce Lee jealous. Her face was immediately engulfed in emotion. “What?” “What did she say?” “How?” The questions came fast. “I think she said the F Word,” repeating myself. “But how?” “What did she say?” she asks. I tell her.

“Well, she must’ve heard the word somewhere, maybe at school?” my wife says. “Who talks like that?” And all of sudden we’re cataloging through our own use of the F Word and the S Word and swearing in general, a past time in which we’re both thoroughly proficient. “We don’t talk like that in the house,” I said. “I’m careful about using the F Word, and I know you’re careful about it, too. She probably heard it school,” I say.

And all of a sudden I’m feeling sad. The thought kindergartners swearing on the playground sucked the good mood right out of me. Yeah, I know kids fall and hurt themselves and bleed, but I couldn’t imagine a toddler landing on the asphalt yelling, “Fuck!”

We were both left with wondering where she heard the word, wondering who had used it in her presence. The answers came a few days later.

We were in the living room. It was a Friday and the unwinding had begun. There was music playing, and my daughter was going through the moves of her self-taught dance routine, a combination of random arm flailing, jumping, head-banging, and spinning. We were the audience, two comatose parents barely alive from a long work week, strewn on the couch, my legs resting on our dog’s ass.

Then, out of nowhere, my daughter is hysterical. She’s convulsing and sobbing and breathing heavily, big kindergarten tears are running down her face. My wife, again, burst into another sit-up. “What’s wrong, honey?” she said as she pulled her in for a big, motherly hug. The dog and I jumped up, too!  I knew to sit back a little because my wife is better in these situations than I am. I was thinking it was maybe Bruno Mars’ fault. Maybe “because you’re amazing just the way you are” made her sad.

After some calming down, my daughter said, “Sheila called me “fucking baby,” I recognized these words from the other night.  “Oh, Momma. Come here,” my wife said. They were in a deep embrace, my wife, too, fighting tears as she asked our daughter, “When did she say this?” “We were playing on the monkey bars, and Sheila ran by me and said it to me,” our daughter explained. It was a brief explanation, but it was enough to alert us that something at school was amiss. We didn’t pry too much. My wife and I looked at one another, and I knew that she, like myself, had begun the brainstorming process that was going to get us to the bottom of this.

It turned out that Sheila was my daughter’s initial introduction to the world of bullying. Yeah, a kindergartner can be a bully, and kindergartners can be bullied. We contacted the school and filed an informal report. The school’s administration contacted Sheila’s parents. For now, it seemed, the proper protocol had been visited. We moved on.

A few days later, in the computer lab, Sheila walked past my daughter and slapped the headphones off her head and said, “I’m going to punch you in the face.” Our daughter told us about when we got home. Luckily, the supervisor had seen it go down and filed a report. But this was the second incident, and it’s hard for a parent to sit back and allow this shit to go on. Part of me wanted to say to my daughter, “The next time she gets close to you or says something to you or touches you, you need to punch her right in the face to let her know that you don’t want her bothering you.” Of course, this is the most wrong way to handle these types of situations. Instead, my wife and I gave our daughter crash courses in standing up for herself and in standing up for others. It went well. She asked a great deal of questions, and we used examples. When it was my turn, though, when we were alone, I couldn’t help saying to my daughter that she was going to have to get physical with Sheila. “What do you mean, Daddy?” she asked. “Well, if she’s pulling your hair or putting her finger in your face and you tell her to stop and she doesn’t stop, then you’re going to have to slap her hand away and tell her to stop it and tell her that you don’t want her around you and that you want her to leave you alone. You might even have to push her.” I then gave her an example. I have an old punching bag in our garage. I almost resorted to hanging it to show her the proper punching technique.

A few days later, my daughter told me that she had done what I had told her. “Oh, yeah! How’d it go? What was the situation?” I asked. “Well, she was sitting behind me in the After-school Academy, and she was poking my neck. Then I stood up and turned around and I slapped her hand away. I told her to stop. Then I told the teacher.” I was proud. “Wow, that’s great, Momma! You see, sometimes you have to do that.”

Sheila had been asked to stay away from my daughter’s vicinity, and my daughter was asked the same. Things were going well. Then there was another incident. This one took place on the playground at recess, and it went well beyond normal playground shenanigans.

My daughter and her friends were jumping rope. Sheila was present. At one point, it isn’t clear how, but Sheila and another girl had the jump rope wrapped around my daughter’s neck, and they were both pulling on it. Thankfully, there was a teacher present.

We had been foolish, perhaps, to take our foot off the pedal when it came to filing complaints. This was it, though. We began harsher proceedings. The school did their part, though a school’s way of handling things isn’t always as swift and satisfying as one would like.

In the end, expulsion was imminent for young Sheila. We didn’t want this for her. We knew Sheila had issues, and so we worried about her emotional state and about her getting help. What she had been resorting to was not normal, especially for a child. There were, naturally, reasons for her acting out in these ways, and we were aware of some of them.

The interventions with Sheila have worked. She is a model student, from what I hear, and there are no more incidents involving my daughter. In fact, my daughter tells us, “Sheila is nice to me. She wants to be my friend. She apologized to me for everything.”

My daughter, for her young age, has developed remarkable skill in handling Sheila and other kids like her. Often times she’ll relay stories to us about how she had to tell another kid to stop picking on one of her friends. Of course, these stories make us proud, and we’re content to see her stand up for herself and for others.

I’m simply glad that my wife and I resorted to teaching her about standing up for herself. We’re not model parents, but we do our best to take the best route possible. In this case, we felt that compassion, especially for a child, was the best response. We also knew that these incidents provided us with a golden opportunity to teach our child about confidence and standing up for what’s right. These are ongoing lessons, but I think my daughter got a little taste of the meanness in people. The sad thing is that I’ve seen a lot worse at the high school level. There’s meanness all around.

Do You Notice Your Children?

It is true that we teachers often know more about the personal lives of our students than do the parents of our students. In most cases, teachers spend an average of five-hours a week with kids, and even more with one-on-one time and talking and listening sessions and after-school tutorials. Teachers, especially English teachers, can get to know their students on even deeper levels, still. Carefully thought out journal prompts and writing assignments can encourage students to tap into certain emotions and thoughts, emotions and thoughts that may be suppressed or covered over or forgotten, mainly because there’s no one at home to notice or listen or take an interest in them, or just to simply inquire if a problem exists.

Journal writing provides students the opportunities to contemplate the world of which they are so thoroughly engulfed. The classroom itself is a sanctuary for many students, a place both welcoming and necessary. One may not think of the actual classroom as a provider of private and comfort, especially with class sizes ranging from thirty to forty students, but students cling to their desks and to the space around their desks and to the view their seat provides.  

In fifteen-years of teaching, I’ve never had a formal seating assignment. Yet every day, students enter my classes and sit at the exact same place they did the day before, and this continues throughout the year. Very rarely do I make changes. In essence, students are territorial when it comes to their special place in the room. They no little of the trap of complacency, but it’s ok—they’re young. However, they are old enough to know what bothers them, and through writing, they can get it all off their collective chests.

This 2014-2015, school year, I began my journal prompts on the first day of school. So far we are thirteen journal prompts into the school year. We’ve written about Ferguson and Salinas, about their biggest academic challenge(s), about historical events, about Holden Caulfield, about the perfect age for marriage. I’ve been pleasantly surprised by their writing. It’s not always the case, but this particular group is honest. They have things to say.

On Friday, I asked, “What is one thing you wish your parents would notice about you?” It was an honest question. I wasn’t fishing for any particular answer. I was simply offering them a chance to get in touch with something they might not have thought about—something to get them out of their comfort zones. Here are some responses (as were written):


One thing I would want my parents to notice more about me is when I do good, they don’t really care. But when I do bad, they do care. I really want this to change with my parents because it confuses me a lot, and it gets to me and my emotions. My mom, for example, gets happy when I do good in school, but I would rather have my stepdad be happy with me, but he never is. Ever since my father passed away, I haven’t been doing too good. My mother didn’t really talk to me about my father’s passing. She never asked me if I ever thought about him or nothing, but she does mention him sometimes. When my mother does mention him, she brings up when they used to be together. I don’t remember a lot about him because he and my mom divorced when I was three. I would go visit him once in a while. My stepdad is very sad because he gets jealous over a deceased man. I wish my mother never met my step-dad.


One thing I’ll like for my mom to notice is that I’m trying the best I can to graduate. I would like my mom to notice this because she thinks I’m not putting any effort to get out of high school and to go to college. If she’ll notice my effort, she would know I’m really looking forward to attending college and to get a career to help her out. She noticed I didn’t care about anything after my brother passed away, but now I’m focusing more on everything because I know he would have been proud of me. I would also like for my mom to notice this so I can have more of her support. I know that she can’t be there for me all the time because she works, and well she’s always busy with my little brothers, but if she would at least support me more with my goal, I’m pretty sure she will be proud. I would like my mom to notice a lot more things, but the most important one is that I’m trying everything to graduate with or without her support. I’ll make it just for my brother.


One thing I would like my mom to notice about me is that I like to work on cars. I would like her to notice this about me because she wants me to go to college, but I just want to be a mechanic and not go to school. Mechanics have been running in my family for more than 20 years, but my mom wants me to go to college and do something else.


One thing I would like my parents to notice more about me is how much I’ve grown in the past two years. I want them to see that I’m not the person I was two years ago. I’ve learned to appreciate life and take advantage of the things I own. Last year, I would procrastinate too much, but this year I have put a little more effort. I know my parents think “que ando de loca,” but I really am trying my best in order to have a good future. I don’t want to say that I would want them to see my weird and funny side because they already do. I know they understand me as much as I do them.


One thing that I would like my parents to notice more of me is that I try in school, and I don’t slack off in class. My parents would always call me lazy and tell me that I never do my work in class. I would like if they would see how hard I try in school and how hard it is for me to do certain things. I would also like it if my parents noticed that telling me stuff that puts me down causes me to start to give up in school, and they would get more upset. I just want my parents to notice that I’m struggling and I need help and not to be put down by them.


Something I want my parents to notice about me is that I probably, don’t really know. Like basically, my mom know everything about me. My dad, well, I don’t live with him. I only get to visit him every summer for the last three summers. My parents are separated, so I don’t get to see my dad that much. I want my dad to know it isn’t easy to live without him. I love him a lot, but my dad left and never came back. I forgave him and stuff, but I never told him how much I hate that he doesn’t live with us. He has another family. This is what I want him to notice. I miss the old times when the family was together.

You can see that kids have a lot of deep, emotional things to say. This particular prompt served as a personal reminder to myself to listen and notice my own children. It’s a tough task, at times, and it’s a little draining, especially after dealing with our students at work, but in the end, the effort is worth it to us and our children. Of course, as parents, we love doing it, so it’s not too much effort at all.